Shelly’s answer to my question on community: "I am a little ashamed to admit how I struggle with community. I always feel like I am “bothering” people when I invite them over or suggest a coffee date or something else. God has shown me that this stems from my past, as my mother used to tell me not to bother people. Anyway, I guess it all stems from my identity - which use to be in people pleasing and is now in Christ."
The interesting thing about the above words of a friend is that she is an amazing hostess. I just recently was invited to her house and she has a beautiful home. Her very inviting home has a large, fabulous farm table where great conversations over our favorite beverages would happen easily. I plan to invite myself over a lot now that I have discovered her sweet space.
It’s sad when people in our past speak negativity over us or speak their insecurities over us and we just accept it and live with it. I can totally relate as my mom projected all of her insecurities onto me and I carried them for so many years. The good news is both my friend and I know where our identity truly is and we can now walk in that freedom. Christ died for us so we could live. God sacrificed His only Son so that we could live an abundant life (John 10:10) where relationships would flourish and communities would be strong.
Christ walked this earth and did community by sitting, and eating, and sharing with people. He is our example on how to “do community well”! Christ was excellent at “inviting” people to do life with Him and I believe that is part of our purpose, here on earth, as well.
This beautiful woman above will be 106 years old next month (November 2015). Her name is Reva and I got to have tea with her when we were visiting her family in Michigan this past August. She spent our time together, and afterwards, talking about how much she enjoyed going out for tea with me. She was beside herself on this day and I will cherish this memory forever. I had no idea how much she was going to enjoy this outing. I just wanted to have lunch with her and try this tea house that we have passed many times and have never stopped in to try it. There was nothing fancy about this place. However, that didn’t matter to her. We were out having tea together – that’s all that mattered to her and so that is all that mattered to me.
Invite people to do community with you.
Not all of them will say yes.
But the ones that say YES will become cherished memories indeed.
How can you invite someone to do community with you this week? Please share in the comments and share a picture of you doing community together on my Facebook page at https://www.facebook.com/LarissaR.Traquair